Honesty is the best policy !

 I was watching the movie "Salangai Oli" yesterday. I felt it was 2 quality hours of time spent on it. The best part about epics is that they give a fresh thought and a new perspective every time we listen to it. Sometimes they even make us change our own perception.

I still remember the last time I watched the movie, that was back in 2005, when Kamal had just started becoming as my favorite actor, I was watching lots of his movies. I loved the movie for Kamal that time. Till then, I had liked the movie mainly for its brilliant musicality and intensity it carries throughout.

But this time, after the movie had completed, I was thinking about something I've never realized, some thing my thoughts hadn't  gone even remotely close to. That is on why the character Balakrishna gave up on his love even when the woman is in love with him. He could have been silly enough to believe that he shouldn't be marrying a woman who had a dark past. Else he could have wanted to do what he felt was the right thing to do. But ultimately, it didn't help him much towards his success. In fact, that sole thing led to his failure in his life, giving an inconsolable pain in heart. I guess he wasn't honest with himself. Even though he wanted to be with her, he gave up, the reason being anything.

I have seen myself in situations where I chose to do what is right, not having my heart fully convinced and some of them really hurt. Fortunately they were not about love coz I believe its very hard to undo those scars that we cause through love. I don’t think doing the right thing helps at all times. I guess we need to be voluntarily wrong sometimes to match our imperfections.

How important is to be honest? I have personally felt that it is almost impossible to be 100% honest to everyone in this world. We certainly need to lie some times, some times to stay social, at the bare minimum for good causes. But its surprising that being true to ourselves is equally difficult, which is not supposed to be. Once in a rare while, when we are down in confidence, we see such moments reminding us the regrets. Of course the optimist will be up and saying to us “Come on, there's nothing much we could have done about it”, without which we would never be able to move on.

If a scenario comes where doing the right thing is not going to help keep our soul happy, we shouldn't worry much about not doing the right thing. It just kills, one not being true to themselves. But as we see, there is no way to roll back time. The best we can do is to start again and hoping to do it well this time.

Inspiration

I have a few well-wishers at my work place, teammates of my previous project in which I was for about 4 and a half years. I wasn’t very much loaded in my final 6 months in those 4.5 years. So we used to have a lot of technical and non-technical discussions, regularly go out for movies and food etc., Even in this 1 month, if there is one thing that hasn't changed, it is our communication. Except that now the discussion happens through gmail chat, we still discuss about a lot of things.

Just as usual, I was chatting with one of my teammates. On the course, he was saying about people we respect not accepting their mistakes, making them uninspiring. For e.g. in a technical discussion, if we ask opinion from one person who we believe is good in what we discuss and turns out later that their opinion is wrong, we respectfully notify them that their opinion was wrong. If they aren't honest about it and disagrees with what they had said earlier, isn't it real bad? We kind of consider them as our teachers and they promptly demoralize us. Doesn't that sound horrible?.

I am an ardent fan of the playback singer Chinmayi and I visit her blog so often as mine. In one of the posts where she wrote about the misbehaving traffic in Chennai she had questioned if they didn't have any inspiring teachers. In another post she had said Gowtham Menon is such an inspiring director and why we don’t find such people in schools and colleges as teachers for us. At the start, it looked a little strange for me that she is so particular about teachers being an inspiration. But thinking about it and the people who have inspired me till now, its a surprise to me that a lot of them are my teachers, whether it is about how to be or how not to be. There is my mother, brother, a few ex-colleagues and a few ex-teammates and a few friends, except them, every other person who inspired me positively has been one of my teachers.

I completely agree with her that its very important that we have inspiring teachers. I have been lucky till now to get quite a lot of inspiration from my teachers. I’m sure this is one right time to thank all those people (both teachers and others) who have inspired my life so far.

Without you, my life wouldn't have been so good, Thank you all !